On a daily basis, we run into people who behave in all manner of ways. Often these interactions are comfortable and feel easy; when you have developed a good rapport with the other person and all parties are open, honest and respectful. However, sometimes these interactions leave us feeling very uncomfortable, when there is anger, defensiveness, fear, anxiety, demanding behaviour or even hysteria – on behalf of the other person, their family or carer, or even on behalf of ourselves. We all have interactions that challenge us. Those that challenge one person may not challenge another in the same way.
We all have our own lived experience, our own filters that affect our perceptions. Working in healthcare can sometimes lead to a degree of desensitisation or development of a slightly peculiar way of viewing life, that dark sense of humour that you may well recognise. This is a self-protective mechanism, an additional filter if you like, and one that we need to be mindful of. It means that we need to pay careful attention to how we are interacting with others on a human level, regarding our clients as people first and patients second.
If we look at ourselves first, we probably recognise that there are some factors that set us up to consult in a less-ideal fashion. You may have come across the acronym HALT – Hungry, Angry, Late, Tired – if any (or all) of these factors are present for us as we interact with others, we are more likely to emit negative vibes. We can take steps to ameliorate all of these to an extent, but just being mindful of how we’re feeling can help.
In addition to this, it can be helpful to remember that we choose our thoughts and behaviours. The vast majority of the time people do not behave in a deliberately malicious or irritating fashion. They are invariably trying to achieve a positive outcome to a situation and choose a behaviour that they think will facilitate that. Unfortunately, sometimes that chosen behaviour can be overdone and can then be perceived by others as something negative.
The following is taken from a very helpful article in Pulse magazine, written by Dr Shaba Nabi, a GP trainer in Bristol:
There are many reasons why a patient may be angry. They may have had access issues, perhaps no one has got to the bottom of their illness or, more commonly, they may just have a life that causes them to feel that way.
Anger doesn’t erupt out of nowhere and the signs are usually there as the patient arrives. If you acknowledge some of these signs early on, patients feel they are being taking seriously and listened to.
And although anger can set off a reflex adrenaline response, it is unlikely that the anger is directed at us personally; we are normally just the outlet for the patient’s expression. It is therefore important to keep some of our own emotional reactions in check and control that ‘inner chimp’.
Pain has always held a fascination for me. There are so many facets to it, and none more fascinating than our psychological appraisal of it. But regardless of the underlying causes or maintaining factors for a patient’s pain, it feels very real for them. It is irrelevant how much of the pain is ‘organic’ and how much is ‘psychological’; it is important to acknowledge their suffering and negotiate a plan to manage it.
Doctors often have a mistaken belief that when patients complain of pain, all they want is stronger analgesia. Often, what they want is empathic listening.
I understand why patients do this; they’ve waited three weeks for an appointment and are unaware you have patients booked at 10-minute intervals. There is no point getting frustrated at them – they need an explanation and negotiation.
There are two types of ‘shopping list’ consultations: overt and covert. For the former, acknowledge the list, explain time constraints and ask the patient to prioritise one or two things, having advised what is achievable in a single appointment.
The covert list is when a patient springs new problems on you after you have been consulting for 15 minutes. You can address all their problems and run late, you can advise them to rebook but risk missing a red flag or something that was important to them, or you can begin the consultation by asking if they have any other issues they want to discuss.
I doubt comorbidity would have been much of an issue 20 years ago, when secondary care followed up all patients with long-term conditions. But these days, patients with complex comorbidities are like unwanted visitors, and hospital managers put enormous pressure on consultants to discharge them. But as patients live longer, and survive long-term conditions, we need strategies for managing complex patients in primary care.
The obvious solution is establishing continuity of care with a named GP. It is also imperative to prioritise clinical problems – you can’t deal with all of their problems at once.
Red flags obviously need to be addressed immediately, followed by what is most important for the patient. You may need to chip away slowly while you get to know the patient.
When patients demand medications or investigations, it is often challenging for GPs to manage this in a patient-centred manner.
But it should be a true partnership approach. There must be a balance between the doctor’s and the patient’s agenda so that the pendulum doesn’t swing between being overly prescriptive and overly submissive. The only management options that should be shared with the patient are those that are also reasonable for the doctor.
It can be hard for patients to understand why their requests are being declined, so we need to emphasise that the reason is based on their best interests.
Human beings self-destruct in all sorts of ways; the person with COPD who continues to smoke and the woman who overeats in spite of being too overweight for the fertility clinic.
What all these patients are likely to have in common is the inability to deal with emotional pain in a healthy and constructive way. Sadly, this cannot be taught in a 10-minute consultation.
It is easy for a GP to become subconsciously paternalistic under these circumstances, which can lead to dysfunctional consultations. Consider using motivational interviewing. It is not just a buzzword, the technique enables a doctor to remain detached while sowing seeds of reflection in the patient’s mind. Motivational interviewing has the added benefit that we will not see it as a personal failure if we are not successful.
When I first qualified as a GP, patients who had multiple somatic symptoms were called somatisers. This was a little unfair as we couldn’t be 100 percent certain that their physical symptoms were not indicative of an illness that was yet to be diagnosed.
Medically unexplained symptoms is a better term because it is not labelling the patient as ‘having it all in the mind’ and opens up the possibility of underlying illness. It is also a term that can be openly shared with the patient in order to decide on a management plan.
I am usually very honest about my appraisal of unexplained symptoms, advising that I cannot fit their symptoms into any kind of disease category that requires investigation. But l also explain that I will remain open minded about exploring new symptoms that arise.
I usually find these patients the most frustrating, probably because their behaviour comes across as irrational at times.
It may be a patient demanding treatment that is not available on the NHS and saying you are doing nothing to help them. Or it could be a patient requesting an urgent appointment for their own convenience rather than an urgent clinical need.
I find it is useful to encourage the patient to draw up their own list of management options for their problems, which I will write down and perhaps add to. Once a list has been drawn up, we assess which options are achievable and the patient is empowered to choose one of those.
This approach takes time but it is worth it if you want to continue having a good long-term relationship with the patient.
These patients may be either new to the practice or new to you. Either way, when they present with a long history of a complicated neurological condition, for example, and want ‘something’ to be done about it, you may find it difficult to keep your cool.
If the patient is new to the practice, take a step-wise approach to information gathering and use the first consultation purely to listen to the patient’s concerns.
It is then important to book a follow-up appointment after reviewing the patient’s medical records in order to complete the assessment and consider the management option. In total, this may take three to four appointments.
If the patient is known to another GP, simply address any priority issues during the appointment and then direct the patient back to their usual GP (see also point 4).
Your first decision is whether to call an interpreter. This is not as easy as it sounds as the patient may speak some English and not feel an interpreter is required, or they may attend with English-speaking relatives.
But it is vital not to compromise the quality of your consultation. If you feel the patient’s English is not adequate or the family are not translating verbatim what you are saying, you need to either terminate the consultation or insist on an interpreter.
However, even with professional interpretation services, you cannot always be certain of their quality assurance.
Cultural differences within a consultation are equally important. Patients from many cultures often expect a far more paternalistic approach from their doctors than they get with British GPs. That is not to say a variety of management options shouldn’t be offered, but you must also respect a patient’s wishes for you to become prescriptive if that is expressed.
We could add a couple of patients to this list that you might recognise:
Some patients do not follow advice or comply with process or treatment. They may not turn up or routinely turn up late for booked appointments, they may return again and again as they are not improving (as a result of their non-compliance) or they might disengage completely with treatment. All manifestations are frustrating in their own respect.
Taking some time to explore the reasons behind this behaviour is likely to be more productive than simply applying sanctions; treating a person with compassion is more likely to engender respect and adherence. There may be very good reasons (real or imagined) why compliance is difficult. However, a firm discussion around the individual responsibilities of each party in the clinician-client contract may be necessary.
This may simply be related to someone’s personality, but occasionally it can be an indication that a patient is becoming more dependent on you than is healthy. It may show itself as a patient being overly familiar, being flirtatious, repeatedly booking appointments ‘for a chat’ or delivering small, yet unsolicited gifts.
This situation can be difficult to manage, particularly if you (as many clinicians do) derive pleasure and purpose from helping others. Consider the drama triangle (Stephen Karpman) , made up of victim-rescuer-persecutor. When you find yourself troubled by a patient being over-friendly it is likely that you are being pulled into this dysfunctional scenario which rarely ends well. Safeguard yourself against this by maintaining a professional relationship with clear boundaries, staying within the empowerment dynamic (Dave Emerald) made up of the corresponding roles of creator-challenger-coach. Remember you are their clinician, not their friend.